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A Sexy Secret to Happier Life

By

Irene A. Masiello

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Did I fool you with the word “sexy?” That’s a journalistic trick to get people’s attention. All of us are interested when the topic is sex. That’s a good thing! Despite the traditional religious stigma attached, sex is a healthy and wonderful part of the human experience. Forgive me for this little trick but I will make it up to you with something that can REALLY change your life. Please read on. You won’t be sorry. Promise J

This is not a story by me. It is a story reported by me. Well, let's put it this way: ever play the game telephone ? Whatever is whispered and repeated changes a little with each person's interpretation of what was said. So, maybe a little of this story comes from my life and what I learned and heard along this path called life.

I bet you are expecting something really complex right? Well, it isn't complex; it's simple. So why aren't more people happy if it is so simple? Well, probably because it is human nature to believe in assumptions. ASSUMPTIONS? Yes, assumptions!

This story will sound so overly simplistic. I have no doubt that you will see it the way I saw it when a total stranger shared it with me. But, the more I thought about it the more I saw the wisdom in it. Then, I promptly shared this story with someone who is raising children. That person e-mailed me back and said he was going to make two copies of this story and give one to each of his children. He said if he had known this sooner it would have saved him so much pain.

It can help many of us. Yet, most of us won't want to listen to what the secret is. You will read this and say, "this can't be." But, this story ought to be given out in every class from elementary school to grad school. Yet, the majority of people won't listen and really implement this. Truthfully, when this story appeared in my magazine column in NYC

I received more phone calls as a result of this one article than all the others combined. People called to say: “you saved my life!” One man stated he was making copies for his entire family. Another said: “I have spent my whole life trying to get the love my family can’t give me and after reading this column I am so relieved. It’s NOT ME!! Thank you!” It’s a great feeling to help others. Try it; you could change the world.

ARE YOU READY? I have my doubts but here we go:

You must walk away from everyone who doesn't love you, treat you with love or act loving towards you. You must never allow anyone into your life that doesn't love you. Sounds simple, right? But, most of us assume that certain people must love us. We live our lives believing that our parents, our relatives, our spouses must love us.

That is not true. Many, many people are incapable of love. We go to the shrinks and say: why doesn't my mother love me? What's wrong with me? After years in therapy we find out that it isn't us. Mom has no capacity to love but most of us will still be trying to accomplish the impossible and make Mom love us.

So, before you spend your entire life miserable here is the secret to a happy life. Walk away from those people who do not love you and that might mean walking away from your parents, children, spouse or anyone else if they abuse or belittle you. If they try to control you, you must walk away. If they use you, you must walk away. You can never interact or do business with anyone who tries to take advantage of you. Taking advantage of someone isn't a loving action. You can never be around people who talk about you behind your back. You can never allow ingrates into you life. You cannot be around abusers of any kind even verbal abusers. Hurtful words aren’t loving.

Many of us are miserable because we try and make people who don't know what love is, love us. Talk about an exercise in futility! Why not ask them to teach you how to fly? Ever hear the expression you can't get blood out of a stone? Why can't some one you love, love you? Well, you may be asking the impossible if you are asking someone incapable of love to love you. You may be asking someone who has mental health issues to give you something they cannot understand because they are deficient in this department of human emotion. Maybe they are just plain dumb. What's the difference; you cannot get the love you want, so give up. You are wasting valuable time and effort when you could be flapping your arms and learning to fly. You have a better chance at flying then you do in getting a person who doesn't know how to love for whatever reason to give you something they know absolutely nothing about.

How do you know if someone loves you? Well, they always have a kind word for you. Their eyes light up when you enter a room. Study people, you will see. There is a smile across their face and their eyes dance when they see you. They will go out of their way for you. They think about you when you aren't around because they save you a cookie or leave you a note. Love is filled with gratitude so when you feel appreciated it is because someone loves you.

Many people love you. More than you can imagine. Someone you don't even know loves you. Look around and think. Who says: "gee, thanks you made my day." There is a person who knows love. See who radiates a smile in your direction when you enter a room. Some times you don't even have to meet someone to see love because they are smiling at you from the minute they catch their first glance of you.

Want more love in your life? Fill your life with people who know that the best things in life aren't things. Hang with people who love nature, plant gardens, do volunteer work, like animals, who believe in God, people who say "please, thank you, excuse me, I'm sorry" a lot. Please note: people who are really sorry, don't keep on doing the same thing. That isn't love.

Oh, and by the way, those people who don't love you? Never, ever, ever give them anything because whatever you give them will never, ever be enough. Think about it.

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